Baby Steps or How to Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Happen this Time – part 3

Last week we looked at what baby steps actually are.

Now, Babysteps are something I have been aware of for quite a while, of course, and I always encourage my clients vividly when they decide to tackle something by taking baby steps.

But I was very reluctant to take my own medicine, so to speak*. When we don’t do something, it is usually because we do not want to do it or we do not know how to do it. The How never being a problem with baby steps – or it means that your step is too big – it had to be the not willing part. It took me quite a long time to figure out why I didn’t want to do them, these baby steps:

Some time ago, one of my teachers talked about an energy depleting situation. I was surprised, because I had experienced this specific situation before and at the time felt full of energy – much more energy than I am usually experiencing. When I asked him about that, he answered with a question: « When do you feel richer: when you spend money, or when you save money? »

Ouch.

And as history has a tendency to repeat itself, so have our inner patterns: I was reluctant to adopt baby steps because they didn’t feel like progress! They felt too easy, too trivial, too, let’s face it, boring. Realizing this, I had to decide what I was after: the feeling « before » or the feeling « after ». I could project myself into some exciting goals and steps, not useful, because I wasn’t doing them. Or I could adopt the trivial-feeling baby steps and make them work.

Now, these baby steps, no matter how useful, might never feel exciting. But I promise you, the results they yield do feel exciting!

Next time we are going to end this little series looking at why it is that baby steps have such in impact on New Years Resolutions and habits in general.

*Did someone just say « Do as I say, not as I do? » Quiet, please! :)

2 Comments

Andrew Lightheartfévrier 8th, 2012 at 15 h 10 min

So, real progress doesn’t feel like we think it’s going to feel. Huh.

I like that. :)

adminfévrier 8th, 2012 at 17 h 05 min

Yeah :)
I guess, whilst we are in the middle of a process it is hardly possible to evaluate what we do only by « feeling ».
There are all kind of parameters out there to evaluate progress, but I still prefer baby steps, because they are so simple that I can’t find any excuse not to do them!

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